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Save for your next familyu002Ffriend gathering. You can text this prompt or read it out loud to the group (I suggest in person is more impactful). Hey everyone! Before our vacation, we wanted to take a quick moment to talk about something that really matters to us—making sure our kids feel safe, respected, and comfortable in every situation. This isn’t about anyone doing anything wrong—it’s just about being intentional and helping them grow in a way that supports their understanding of body autonomy, respect, and trust. We’d love your help with a few small things we’re focusing on right now. Here’s a quick rundown: 1. Hide and Seek The kids love it! We’re encouraging them to play more independently. If you help them hide, please pick a different spot for yourself instead of hiding together. 2. Diaper & Potty Help Caleb and I handle all of Khai’s diaper changes. If Fei needs help using the bathroom and we’re not nearby, we’re comfortable with Felicia, Nat, Sue, Katie, and Bri helping her. 3. Anatomically Correct Language We use terms like “penis,” “vagina,” and “vulva” to teach them body autonomy. Please also avoid making comments about their bodies, especially private parts. 4. No Secrets We avoid phrases like “don’t tell mommyu002Fdaddy” or “this is our secret.” We want the kids to always feel safe being open with us. 5. Curiosity & Boundaries As they grow, the kids are naturally curious. If they’re playing inappropriately, a calm, shame-free reminder that “everyone’s body belongs to them” is perfect. 6. Hugs & High Fives They love affection, but please ask before initiating physical contact. If they say no, a simple “I respect your boundary” goes a long way. 7. Lap Sitting & Kisses Please don’t encourage this. If they offer, please redirect with a “no thank you” and if you’d like you can ask them for a hug or high five instead. 8. Surprise Affection We’d love to avoid surprise hugs, tickles, or other sudden touch. Giving them a heads-up helps them feel more in control. 9. Transitions Transitions can be hard! If you’re wrapping up an activity, giving a 10-min, 5-min, and 1-min warning helps a ton. 10. Names & Language We’re teaching them about respectful communication, so we prefer using their names instead of pet names like “sweetie” or “honey.” Thanks so much for helping us create a respectful and safe space for them—we really appreciate your support and can’t wait to enjoy this time together. If you have any questions, feel free to ask!